The rebel’s guide to putting yourself first

The Rebel's guide to putting yourself first

Let me guess what you’re going to say…

You’re going to tell me that you can’t possibly think about putting yourself at the top of the list. You have a business/ career/ kids/a partner/parents/colleagues/friends/pets (delete as appropriate). You have a huge to-do list and an even huger pile of paperwork. You have shopping to do, homework to help with, 3 different lunches to make, missed calls to return…

Each one of these important items in your world needs something, whether that’s your time, your attention or your love.

That’s a lot to give. And, well, it doesn’t sound like much fun, does it?

And here’s the thing… if you can’t give yourself time and attention and love, you won’t have the tools (or the sanity) you need to serve your loved ones. You can’t bring the sparkle for someone unless you care for yourself first. That’s just how it works.

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“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.” – C. JoyBell C.

I want you to remember this moment. This is the moment where you have finally decided to say “enough is enough”. You’ve finally made a move towards putting yourself to the top of the priority pile and have some fun, baby! That’s a big move 😉

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The rebel’s guide to putting yourself first

In this guide you’ll find my five-step framework for fun and frolics that has kind of organically taken shape over the years.

I’ve spent years running businesses, creating and coaching and mothering… and these are the lessons I’ve learned. These are the steps I take every day of my life to make sure I stay fuelled, fearless and free. I encourage you to do the same. Time to learn to play, guys!

I’ll see you on the other side!

The rebels guide to putting yourself first

Step 1: Say a conscious NO                                                                                                                                      Step 2: Listen to your heart
Step 3: Check in with yourself daily
Step 4: Take care of your temple
Step 5: Chase wild, wonderful happiness wherever you can

Step 1: Say a conscious NO

Saying NO is a huge challenge for most of us.

How many times have you offered to do something that wasn’t strictly your responsibility, said yes to a coffee date that you didn’t really want to go on, done all the heavy lifting with a troubled family member or a sick grandparent? Taken on a joint project at work but ended up carrying someone else, said yes to helping a friend organize a party even though you were crazy busy, volunteered at the kids’ school even though you had 101 other things to get done? Gone on a date because you feel sorry for someone? Said yes to a business proposal that was good but not great?

Do you ever struggle to say NO?

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Step 2: Listen to your heart

Not just a cracking Roxette song – also an important lesson!

As human beings, we have evolved with our own set of very powerful instincts, but it breaks my heart to see how often we ignore those voices within. We get to a place where we believe fun is something for the kids – something frivolous that we “don’t have the time” to think about.

I want you to trust yourself. I want you to take note of the messages you hear, the insights you glean from your day-to-day experiences. Learn those lessons, take them on board, and let them help you find your purpose.

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Step 3: Check in with yourself daily

The practice of self-love is just that… a practice.

If you truly want to make putting yourself first a part of your reality, you need to commit to making it happen. When that’s an hour a day, or five minutes a day, it’s a non-negotiable. *Insert wagging finger and sternest scowl*

How much time can you gift yourself? Be realistic, but make the promise and honor it.

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Step 4: Take care of your temple

You will never feel “in the zone”, you will never feel at peace, you will never feel like kicking back and finding the fun if you’re not willing to take good care of your physical body.

If there’s a disconnect, if you feel tired, or drained, or sluggish, you will simply not see the results you crave.

Be mindful of what you put inside your body. When you eat, eat nutritious food but also eat it mindfully. Savour every mouthful, put your phone down, turn off the TV, be present to nourishing your body.

Make getting enough sleep an important goal. Get your heart rate up at least twice a week. Stretch your body. Hydrate your body. Lavish love on your body with massages, exfoliation, soft fabrics. Spend time appreciating and touching your body, include your body in your daily gratitudes 😉

These are all teeny, tiny moves, but they’re all incredibly impactful.

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Step 5: Chase wild, wonderful happiness wherever you can

Allowing yourself to seek happiness is the most profound, inspiring thing you can possibly do.

Think of it this way – your biggest dream for all of the people you love is for them to be happy and healthy, right?

Well, the same should be true of yourself. Getting playful is powerful, gorgeous!

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If you are ready to take a stand, if you are ready to COMMIT to loving hard on yourself and getting your deep belly laugh on every damn day, you can download a copy of this guide here.

Print it out. Scribble all over. Take note of how you feel at every step.

Above all, remember that the most crazy important relationship you will ever have is with your fine self, so don’t take YOU for granted.  You are marvellous. A miracle. There is only one you and your special brand of YOU is exactly what makes you so damn fabulous. It’s time, I’m challenging you to fall in love with yourself and watch your life transform!

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